I'm sure I'm not the only one but I'm ready for school to be over and summer to begin. I need a change in routine. More importantly, I think Chance needs a change, too.
A lot of kids with sensory issues struggle with transitions. They really like their routines unchanged, and there are a lot of strategies around how to deal with this. However with Chance, I've noticed that if I don't shake things up every once in a while, if he's not challenged then he slips back into bad behavior habits. Rather like, "Wow, now that I'm completely comfortable in all my environments, even a little bored maybe, I think it's time to defy authority."
For example, just yesterday I made Chance dinner and put a slice of bread on the plate. Then when I went to make my own plate I noticed the bread was moldy. Whoops. So I called out...
Me: "Hey Chance, give me your bread. I think it's bad."
Me, walking into the room: "I think the bread's bad, hon; I need to check. Give it to me, please."
And Chance, instead of handing it to me, TOOK A BIG BITE!
Then my head spun around a few times and I vomited freak out words, plus yelling. Then he got sent to his room and there was some more yelling. And there were some tears and a general impression that there would be dire, dire consequences, plus drama, to any continued disobedience.
A few of you might be thinking, "Wow, overreact much?" but seriously? He didn't even look at the bread, he just assumed he knew better (because five-year-olds know everything) and he completely disregarded me. This has been happening a lot recently but that was the first time where it could have made him physically ill. (I know, it was only mold, but what if it wasn't?!) You know, I can deal with the typical kid challenges to authority. In theory, I even like a good, independent spirit and self-thinker. But when those challenges turn into potentially unsafe behavior... I kind of lose it. I mean, what's next? I yell, "Stop, look out?" and he runs in front of a truck anyway?
Keen always says, "Don't even go there; you're just worrying yourself. Why do that?"
Because I'm a mom, that's why.
So anywho, all this boils down to I think we need a big change in routine. We've got Chance's graduation on Friday and then we're ending the school year early and going on vacation. When we get back I'm changing up his OT ( we need to work on some new specific skills) and starting some new challenging activities. I honestly think he's just so comfortable in his current routines he isn't feeling the pressure of consequences when he's acts out. You know what I mean? He knows all his teacher's buttons, and grandparents in general are pushovers. Yeah, I might (maybe, possibly) have my own buttons/control issues but I still recognize and manage the differences between his SPD and his behavioral issues better than anyone else. I need Chance with me some more so I can keep him on his toes. Unfortunately, a sad fact of kid life is that obedience is necessary.
If only for his parents' sanity.
- the weirdgirl